Mummy Blogging: No one is Perfect

Hello there lovelies! welcome back to my blog. Have you noticed how social media shaped our behaviours and us in general. Do I even remember life before instagram and facebook!

Mummy Blogging.. No one is perfect

At the start of each month I think to myself I NEED to post once a day on Instagram sometimes I do manage to post every day for a week then I stop! Because let’s face it life is not as glamorous as most Instagram posts are!

While I try to juggle work and being a mum, I barely have time to look pretty and take a photo or sometimes I barely do anything exciting for days that are Instagram worthy! I honestly envy those who do.

Personally, We are not out for dinner every night and we don’t plan kid’s activities every weekend as much as we try. As a mummy blogger I follow a few mummy bloggers on Instagram and read a few blogs as well. I always wonder to myself how do they do it? Every photo is Pinterest perfect! Then I realised no one’s life is completely perfect and no one has completely figured out motherhood to make it look so flawlessly effortless. Most of these photos are meticulously staged and planned.

No one posts a selfie with zero sleep or a photo of their pjs with milk stains from breastfeeding because let’s face it motherhood can sometimes be so unglamorous. For the past few months I’ve only been wearing concealer (unless I’m filming for my channel) if I feel fancy then I’ll add pencil liner and a lip-gloss.

We as mummy bloggers/ vloggers try so hard to make our parenting look perfect on social media that sometimes we forget to live and enjoy the moment. In the past few months I saw many YouTube mummies’ marriages fall apart, people I honestly had the perfect marriage and family. Their photos are the type that make you #goals on social media.

I’m here to admit I’m not a Pinterest mum and I’m not even one of those mums who have a perfect Instagram feed but there is no shame in that because as we grow older we will remember our memories and laugh at the goofy (non instagramable) photos.

So next time you are on Instagram and look at your favourite blogger remember that it is not always what it seems. You are leading your version of perfect with your family.

Have you ever felt pressured but what you see on social media?

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Day at the Museum: Pauline Gandel Children’s Gallery Review

Hello lovelies welcome back to my blog and if you are new here I hope you will stick around and become a regular visitor.

We went to Melbourne Museum for Pauline Gandel Children’s Gallery designed for babies up to 5 years old. Here is a quick review of Children’s Gallery in case you want to take you little ones.

Family day out at Melbourne museum

Cost: free to children under 3

$15 for adults

Tickets:

You can get your tickets online or at the entrance

Address:

11 Nicholson St, Carlton, Victoria, 3053

it is a convenient location with plenty of public transport options and parking available. We took the bus; it was entertaining for baby E because he has barely been in a bus or train. Of course, in a very toddler- mummy manner we sang wheels on the bus go round and round while on the bus.

The children’s museum is open daily, from 10am to 5pm. We went on a Saturday. The Children’s Gallery was full because it was the holidays and most parents were trying to make the most of it.

Thing I will do differently next time

Apart from bring my husband along (he was still in Kenya when we went to the museum); I would also bring my DSLR camera. We would also aim to go early in the morning and spend the day at the museum. There is a big playground next to it and plenty of space for a family picnic.

I would bring change of clothes for E because there was a small water fountain that we tried hard to avoid so it would have been helpful if he had spare clothes to enjoy splashing the water.

Overall Experience

Fantastic, I would definitely be bringing baby E again

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What’s that smell? My Favourite Perfumes & Wish List

Hi Lovelies, welcome back to my blog. Today’s post is not mummy related but I wanted to share with you some of my favourite perfumes and which perfumes I want to add to my collection.

Perfumes1. Cinema by Yves Saint Laurent

If I could pick only one perfume to use for the rest of my life, this would be it. My mum gifted me this perfume when I was getting married and therefore it holds such dear place in my heart.

2. Amarige by Givenchy

Again, another perfume that holds great place in my heart is Amarige, it’s one of the perfumes my mum used to use growing up so the smell reminds me of her. When I was heading off to university and moving from home, my mum gifted me the miniature version and I used to smell it whenever I was home sick.

3. Daisy by Marc Jacob

I was first gifted this perfume when I was getting married and I repurchased it again and again. It has a floral smell but it’s not overpowering.

4. Eternity by Calvin Klein

This is the most affordable perfume on my list. It is my everyday fragrance, I repurchased it so many times to count. It’s my go to perfume for work, interviews or a casual meeting with friends.

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5. Black Orchid by Tom Ford

any perfume by Tom Ford will have to be on my wish list, Black Orchid has great reviews online, because as most of you are aware Tom Ford products are not the most affordable you will find so many posts of people trying to find a dupe perfume that smells like Black Orchid. In my opinion nothing beats the original even if you are going to pay a little extra.

6. Si by Giorgio Armani

This will be my birthday  gift to myself this year if I don’t manage to buy it before July.

7. Chanel N5 & 8. Chanel Coco Mademoiselle

Chanel perfumes are timeless, I have added both Chanel N5 which is a mature scent and Chanel Coco Mademoiselle which is more youthful to my wish list.

What’s your favourite scent? 

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7 Podcasts you should listen to in 2018 | Mrs Jibril

Hi Lovelies, welcome back to my blog and if this is your first time stumbling across my little piece of the Internet welcome, I hope you will stick around and become a regular visitor.

As promised in my 2018 goals I want to be more consistent on my blog and share with you all the things I love.

Back in 2016 I never used to listen to podcasts honestly I barely had time being a first time mummy to a newborn and also I’m more of a visual person! Give me a movie or a series to watch and we can become best friends so audio wasn’t very appealing at that time (why lie!).

After I moved back to Australia (I lived in sunny Kenya for a while in case you didn’t know) I also started working after being a SAHM when I was in Kenya. I was taking long commutes to and from work! I found myself getting bored easily for constantly being on Instagram and Facebook, I was also always running out of data within a few days. I wanted something to entertain me on my train ride. Podcasts was exactly the solution to what I was looking for. I can download them at home (using Wi-Fi) and listen to them in my daily commutes. Here are my favourite 7 podcasts that I would recommend you to listen to.

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  1. Serial

Early 2017 I came across a Facebook comment about Adnan Syed. I was clueless who he was and I was curious, I went on YouTube and figured out that there is a podcast about his case I decided to download it and my journey with podcasts started there.

  1. Dirty John

Similar to serial it is based on a true crime story you will have alarm bells go off in your mind from episode one but you can not predict the ending.

  1. They walk among us

Another crime podcasts based on true crime however this podcasts is British and it is also not a connect series but rather individual episodes about different cases. Some stories are 2 parts so you will need to listen to both.

  1. Call your Girlfriend

This podcast is hosted by Ann Friedman and Aminatou Slow; it’s a conversation between two best friends and they discuss all current event like pop culture, racism and feminism

  1. Stuff mom never told you

I was actually just listening to an episode on my way to work today about gender reveal party. The style of this podcast is very similar to call your girlfriend. Strong women stating their opinions but everyday issues.

  1. Oprah’s Super soul conversations

Who doesn’t love Oprah! She interviews legends in this podcasts from Deepak Chopra to Shonda Rhimes. This podcast is usually the dose of inspiration I need for the day.

  1. TedTalks – Society and culture

If you are anything like me I had a TedTalks phase, yes… I used to watch TedTalks on YouTube for hours when I was in university. Secretly dreaming that one day I will be able to attend a TedTalk event.

Those are some of my favourites and I’m always on the look out for interesting podcasts to listen to.

 

What’s your favourite podcast?

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17 Goals, Dreams & Ambitions for 2018 | Mrs Jibril

Hi lovelies, Happy New Year! I can’t believe today is the last day of 2017; in a very blogger manner here is my last post of the year. As some of you know I love writing my goals and targets down because then I will be more likely to achieve them or at least attempt to achieve them. Here are my 17 goals, dreams and ambitions for 2018 divided into 5 categories.

2018

MYSELF

  1. Sleep early – I noticed that I have been sleeping really late even though I need to wake up early. In 2018 this needs to change so that my body get enough rest and sleep each night.
  2. Drink more water – for glow skin and better health, water is essential. I need to start drinking my 8 glasses of water a day.
  3. Get my Australian License and buy a car – I’m already doing my driving lessons each week and hopefully will be able to get my license soon * We got a Yaris hatchback

BABY E

  1. Soccer lessons – I want E to like sports, soccer is always a good activity for little children around his age.  we started soccer trial in October.
  2. Swimming lessons – Once my husband joins us, I want baby E to start his swimming lessons. He loves the water and it will be a fun bond experience for them.
  3. Start the library challenger 1000 books before preschool – Our local library has a fun challenge for kids to read 1000 books before preschool (4 years) Baby E already read so many book but in 2018 I want to keep count of the book we read and maybe suggest to you the books we enjoy.

OUR FAMILY

  1. Visiting Kenya – we do plan to visit Nairobi next year and visit my in laws.
  2. Hubby moving to Melbourne – we did apply for my husband’s visa and waiting to hear from immigration. I’m hoping he will be joining us sooner than later. *Update: My husband was granted his visa
  3. Explore Melbourne as a family – Melbourne is such an amazing city with so much to do. I want us to explore it together.
  4. Move to a bigger placeour current 2 bedroom apartment is more than enough when hubby moves here but I’m hoping (dreaming) to move into a bigger place closer to my mum’s place once we can afford it. We moved down the road from my mum’s house in September

THE BLOG

  1. Post weekly and pre-plan my posts – with my big move, starting a new job and starting my YouTube channel unfortunately I ended up not posting as often as I liked. I feel rather disappointed because blogging is and will always be my passion for 2018 expect to see more posts.
  2. Collaborate with other bloggers and take part in blog series – in January I will share with you a post I did with a fellow mummy blogger from the U.K and I will continue to look for great opportunities to get to know other bloggers in my niche and hopefully collaborate.
  3. Grow my Mrs Jibril brand– I want to build a strong and recognisable brand for my blog.

MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL

  1. Start a career series – giving helpful career tips because of my background in Human resources and also recently trying to start a career after motherhood. My series will be helping others with thing like job interviews, picking a career after university, getting back in to the job market, etc.…
  2. Get more subscribersplease help me get to 100 subscribers, I’m only 2 subscribers away. *Update: I’m currently at 122 subscribers thank you so much (16.01.18)
  3. Do videos with hubby – my husband is quite shy and I will need to convince him to appear in my videos. Check out my first video with my  hubby ” The Husband Tag
  4. Attempt vloggingit will require a lot of courage, now all my videos are on the coach when I’m alone in the house so vlogging is a whole new game to film myself in public. Watch my first vlog and let me know what you think

Stay tuned to see if I accomplish any or all of these goals, dreams and ambitions in 2018.

Thank you so much for your continuous love and support. Thanks to everyone who reads my posts and shares them.

I hope 2018 brings us all happiness and health. Let’s have a great year lovelies.

Share with me one thing you would like to achieve in 2018

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How to Keep Our Children Safe from Predators | Mrs Jibril

Hi Lovelies,

I wanted to start a discussion on my blog, I posted a video a few weeks ago on my YouTube about How to keep our children safe from predators. As a mummy blogger I want to also shed the light on topics that might be taboo and not discussed often. Child sexual abuse is way too common not to be talked about.

HOW TO PROTECT OUR CHILDREN FROM PREDATORS

As parents we need to know that predators can be male, female or even another child. We need to change our idea that it is the creepy stranger who wants to hurt our babies! Most often it’s someone that we know and the child trusts. Someone who you least expect! Not to alarm you. I haven’t personally experienced this but I have noticed on social media there are so many case every day. Predators can be from any ethnicity, background and religion. It could be someone you admire and look up to.
Firstly, I would like to tell parents who went through this or is going through it, it is not your fault and you shouldn’t blame yourself or your child. Make sure you report it to the police and try to heal as a family by seeking professional help like child phycologist and family therapy. There are many resources out there to help your family during this.
I came up with a few things I will personally start doing and I urge you all to start as well, to make it a little safer for our children. It’s our role as mummies to protect them and keep them safe.

My Tips / Advice

1. Monitor your child: This means not leaving your child unsupervised for long hours with others. I know it’s impossible to watch your child 24/7 because let’s face it some of us are working mummies, some of our babies go to school and as they grow older they go for camps and sleepovers. Of course, no mummy wants to always say NO and let her child miss out on these things however, we need to be more vigilant who they are with and always check up on them.

2. Educate your child about privacy and their body: Let’s start by when our babies are in nappies don’t let everyone change your baby’s nappy. When you are in public or at a gathering excuse yourself and change your baby somewhere else instead of in front of people (I know some mothers already do this). When your child is starting toilet training make sure it’s only the parents that helps and soon they won’t even need any help in the toilet. Once starts to understand things you need to reinforce that not everyone can see their body and that their body is THEIRS alone. Educate them about body parts no one should see or touch.

3. Notice any change in your child’s behavior: you child might start becoming withdrawn or their grades are dropping this is an alarm bell !! it could be a sign of sexual abuse or your child might be subjected to bullying.

If you want to know more tips and advice please watch my video and don’t forget to like, comment and subscribe to my channel if you haven’t already.

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Where I’ve been – Career, YouTube, Driving, Podcasts | Mrs Jibril

Blogging has been a great hobby of mine for a very long time, I love sharing my life and our family’s experiences with the mummy bloggers community and my readers.

Consistency was one goal I wanted to achieve in my blog and you guessed it… I wasn’t as consistent as I hoped with a toddler running around, working full time and starting my YouTube Channel. I had a lot on my plate. You might also know that I’m currently in a long-distance relationship while my husband is working in Kenya so every free minute I’m talking to him or trying to balance our schedules and the time difference.

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I still feel guilty that I haven’t blogged for almost a month even though I’m very consistent with my YouTube uploads “A New Video Every Saturday”. I miss you all and miss the blogging community. I’ve been creating content and expect more of me here on the blog.

I’m still working and trying to find the right work/life balance. I started job hunting for my next gig because my contract is 6 months and I was unsure if it will get renewed so better safe than unemployed. Luckily I did manage to get an extension but it was good to see what the job market is like, I did land an interview with one of the Victorian Public Sector Offices however, it is a shorter contract and I like to be more settled rather than job hopping ( how very un-Millennial)

We celebrated baby E’s second birthday last month. Keep your eyes peeled for 2-year baby update (like the good old days when I did monthly baby updates)

I started driving, if some of you remember I have my Kenyan license but new country means new rules so it will take me practice getting used to driving in Melbourne.

I’ve been enjoying podcasts recently during the long train ride home and to work in the morning. Serial, Dirty John and Stuff Mom never told you are some of my favourites, do you listen to podcasts? Or am I just starting to get old.

I never posted my labour and delivery story on my blog but I shared over on YouTube, it was quite dramatic. If you’re curious make sure to watch it and let me know your thoughts.

What have you been up to?

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Huge Announcement … Mrs Jibril is now on YouTube

Hello lovelies, as some of you already know I’ve been blogging for over a year. All my hard worked paid of and I started working with brands and get featured on other blogs, my DA also finally started growing.

When I first started my blog there weren’t many Somali Mummy Bloggers, which is what motivated me to start my blog back when it was called Simply a Mama ( I rebranded a few months ago to Mrs Jibril)

Growing up I was a shy kid and sometimes I even lacked self confidence so if you told me that I will be writing content on the internet for the whole world to read I wouldn’t have believed it.

Today I gathered all my courage and uploaded my YouTube first video and I intend to upload weekly videos on my channel because if I could share my experience with one mum then that is enough. I will try my best not to let numbers discourage me because I know not everyone is a YouTube sensation or have viral videos.

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Why Youtube?

I noticed a huge gap in YouTube, there wasn’t many mummy YouTubers like me (African, Muslim, Hijabi, living in Australia, etc) I couldn’t find someone who resembles me which made me think?! Why don’t I start instead of waiting for someone else. It has been on my mind for months I even had starting a YouTube channel as one of my blogging goals back in January.

How you can help me?

Head over to my channel and watch my first YouTube video, which is tips for new mothers. It would mean the world to me if you could subscribe as well and like my video if you enjoyed watching it.

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Who’s your favourite Mummy Youtuber?

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Living overseas and your child’s immunisation: Our experience ( Kenya) | Mrs Jibril

Hi Lovelies,

Moving can be hard especially with a baby, one thing that no one mentions when they talk about settling in a new country is immunisation.

*Personally, I’m pro-vaccine. I was vaccinated as a child and I intend to fully vaccinate all my children regardless where we live. If you choose not to vaccinate your little one then this post might not be for you.

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My son (Baby E as most of you know him) was born in Melbourne back in 2015; he received his 2 months and 4 months vaccines in Melbourne at our local clinic. In Australia we have a book to keep all the baby’s developmental records including immunisation. I know every country is different and in Kenya it’s a card instead a book to keep track of the baby’s immunisation.

At 5 months I travelled with Baby E to Kenya and we spent a year there, a few weeks after settling in Kenya his 6 months vaccinations were due. We weren’t fully prepared what we had to do to get them done. First we visited his pediatrician who recommended Gertrude’s Children’s Hospital in Lavington, which was the closest children’s hospital to our house.

We booked an appointment. I wanted to follow the schedule on his Baby book. In Kenya there is a completely different immunisation schedule because of course it is designed to best protect the babies living Kenya.

At the Children’s Hospital we were told that they have the two shots but not the drop! This was the 3rd dose and there was no way he wasn’t going to get it. So Hubby and I went on a mission to physically go and look for the drop. We went to Dr. Chunge, Aga Khan Hospital, Nairobi Women’s hospital with no luck then * Drum roll please * we finally found the drop at Nairobi Hospital. We purchased it and then we were told that no one is available to administer it.

The problem here is I needed a professional to administer it because there are very specific details that need to be filled in the book like the batch number and it needs to be signed/ stamped and dated. We had to go to Dr Claire Majisu Baby E’s pediatrician to administer it and she happily did so.

His 12 months vaccine were way smoother than these, his doctor had all of the shots available at her clinic. It’s important to note that these vaccines will cost you around $100 so don’t assume it will be free as it is in most countries.

When we moved back to Melbourne I took my baby’s book into our local city council and had his records updated on the system that his immunisation is up to date. A few weeks after our arrival it was time for his 18 months shots and he was a complete champ, he even earned a sticker. Now we have 2 years until the next run of vaccinations.

If you don’t document you child’s immunisation while traveling, you baby might end up getting a lot of vaccines at once when you return to your country.

If you’re traveling with you baby don’t forget the travel vaccinations for the baby and you will receive a yellow book to take with you. If your traveling to Kenya because you will be asked about those vaccinations at the airport.

 Have you traveled with a small baby before?

Was your baby ever vaccinated in another country?

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Things I was told about giving my baby a Pacifier | Mrs Jibril

I was one of those mums who didn’t pack a dummy in my hospital bag as I went to have my baby because I thought I wouldn’t need it. As most first time mums I was wrong. Fast-forward 22 months later and my baby is a total sucker for his dummy and we haven’t weaned him off completely yet. I’m such a dummy for the dummy… Pun intended!

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Some of you may remember that we lived in Kenya and I received criticism from many people because using a pacifier isn’t very common there.

Here are some of the questions and statements I heard while I was there and some I still get today even though we’re in Australia.

Does it really sooth him? Does it work? How does it work?

The main reason any mum would use a pacifier is to sooth their baby when he’s a little cranky or unsettled. Baby E isn’t an exception, I gave him his first dummy to sooth him.

 Doesn’t dummies disturb his sleep?

Small babies go through so many things, witching hours to sleep regression to teething which all interfere with the baby’s sleep. When the baby falls a sleep eventually the dummy falls out and he can’t even sense it if he is in deep sleep.

 Does it make him sleep?

Surprisingly when we give our baby his dummy if he’s tired he would sleep. Trust me if he’s not sleepy no dummy or any trick can make him fall asleep.

 He will never speak! He will end up with speech delay because of the dummy!

This is a very silly assumption and extremely inappropriate, there is no mother that tries to hinder her child’s development deliberately. Some children who never used a pacifier end up with speech delay.

Doesn’t the dummy mess up his teeth? He’ll have crooked teeth

I researched about it and asked various medical professionals; I was assured that dummies don’t ruin the baby’s teeth. This is my first child so I wouldn’t know until he grows up if he will get buck and crooked teeth or not after he looses his cute pearly milky teeth. I have one solution for this problem if it ever happens “braces”.

Whether your child sucks a dummy or their thumb, it eventually doesn’t matter as long as your baby happy and healthy.

We had a goal to ditch the pacifier by baby E’s 1st birthday and we failed miserably. Are we ready to ditch it soon? Maybe..

Our goal is now to get wean him off by his 2nd birthday in 2 months. Wish us luck.

Did you use a pacifier with your little ones?

How did you manage to wean them off?

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