How to survive a long distance relationship

Long distance is one of the hardest things a relationship/ marriage can go through, as some of you may know that I’m now in Melbourne, Australia while my husband is still in Nairobi, Kenya. It’s been close to 5 months, which I know, might not seem like such a long time but it feels like 50 years if you ask me.
But our relationship is still strong and it’s surviving the test of distance. I know a lot of go through something similar so I wanted to share how we are making long distance work in our relationship.

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Trust
This is a no brainer you must trust each other, I personally never doubted my husband’s faithfulness call me old fashion. Even when people point out that “all men cheat” I honestly don’t believe it. We have a lot together that we won’t risk our relationship by being unfaithful. If you don’t trust him then marriage might not be the right step for you just yet and long distance is not going to work.

Communication
We talk/ video chat daily if we don’t I feel like my day isn’t complete. Baby E also chats with his dad daily because the last thing I want is to mess their strong bond by our move. Now that I’m working full time my husband will call my mom while I’m at work and he would talk to Baby E. it helps that my mum is also on Facebook.

Social Media
We’re so lucky to have all these little apps in our fingertips to communicate and chat without a large bill. could you imagine long distance relationship back in the 80’s?
Our favourite apps are Skype, Facebook messenger, we also use Whatsapp occasionally all these are free apps. I also tag him in posts and share funny videos he does the same as well.
Even though we live miles apart all our social media accounts make it very clear that we are in a committed relationship from posting photos of each other to our relationship status.
Some people might not feel comfortable posting photos of their partner or family on social media which is understandable but I honestly don’t have a problem with it.

Time difference
Time difference can be such a huge barrier in a long distance relationship because we’re not only living on different sides of the world but you’re also living in different time zones. My advice is adding your partner’s city on the world clock in your phone so you know the time instead of having to always calculate it in your head. Then be mindful of your other half’s schedule so that you don’t call in inappropriate times or in the middle of the night.
Sometimes it’s not about talking for hours on end but rather having a quick catch up daily when the time is suitable for both of you.

Talk about the future
Having a clear vision about your future together is important, it makes it a bit easier because you make plans about life together once long distance is no longer an issue.
we sometime talk about future holidays we would like to take and how our future will look like 5 or 10 years from now.

Remember it is worth waiting to be reunited with someone you love. Long distance is not a permanent situation.

Have you ever been in a long distance relationship?

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31 thoughts on “How to survive a long distance relationship

  1. Musings of a tired mummy...zzz... says:

    Long distance or short distance relationships if you don’t have the commitment and communication, I hope you manage to get together in person soon, #blogstravaganza

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  2. Alisa says:

    Long distance is really hard! We had to do it before we were married and even now, with my family on another continent, we have enforced time apart as I and my daughter spend chunks of time with my family. But we talk every day and utilize all those aforementioned apps to keep in touch. It’s good for us to have our own space but at the end of the day, we really miss each other as I’m sure you do too! Good luck! I hope that you reunite soon 🙂 #blogcrush

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    • Mrs Jibril says:

      Yes it’s really hard when kids are involved as well. I can’t wait for it to be over honestly, even though we are making the most of it in the meantime. I don’t think after this we will even do long distance again, where ever he goes we will be there.
      Thanks for commenting 🙂

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    • Mrs Jibril says:

      It’s extremely difficult at times but we are trying our best with these circumstances, all I keep telling myself is it’s not a permanent situation and one day we will reunite again.
      Trust is so important in any relationship whether it’s long distance or not.
      Thanks for reading my post and commenting xx

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  3. Lucy At Home says:

    This is a great post! Hubby and I were often apart for 3 or 4 months at a time in the early days, and it was so difficult. But, as you say, there are so many options at our fingertips now. My family live away from us, so we often use WhatsApp to send photos to each other and give regular updates of our kids.

    I also want to say that I DONT’T believe all men cheat. It sounds like you’ve got a keeper and I hope that you get to be together in person very soon. #triumphanttales

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    • Mrs Jibril says:

      When I was in Kenya I was far from my family which sometimes made me really homesick and now that I’m with them I really miss my husband so it was never win-win for me, hopefully they can all be in one country one day.
      We are so lucky to live in age where we have access to so many ways to communicate and video chat with our loved ones overseas.
      Glad you also think like me that there is no way all men cheat. Thank you so much for your encouraging comment, I appreciate it xx

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  4. Heather Keet says:

    My husband is in the Navy and our biggest breakdown is communication. He deploys for about 7-9 months each year and we get no contact during then. No emails, no phone calls, just nothing. But we make sure to communicate even better when we’re together to make up for it. #fortheloveofBLOG

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    • Mrs Jibril says:

      Oooh Heather I can imagine how hard that can be at times, but he’s serving his country which is fantastic. Glad you are cherishing every moment together and making lots of great memories.
      Thanks for commenting sweetheart xx

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  5. Hayley - I am River says:

    I’m British and my husband is Tanzanian. In the early years of our relationship we had to spend many months apart, it’s just the way it was. But we trusted each other completely and it was just meant to be. 9 years later and we’re married with 2 sons, and now rarely apart. If something is meant to be it will just be x x #DreamTeam

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    • Mrs Jibril says:

      That’s so great to hear Hayley. I’ve known my husband for 9 years and we’ve been married for almost 3 years and have a son together. I made the big move to Kenya when we were about to get married and lived there then I moved back to Australia permanently with our son in March. We completely trust each other and understand that this is a temporary situation for our family to be in. Hopefully it won’t take very long for him to come to Australia and join us.
      Thanks for reading my post and commenting xx

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      • Hayley - I am River says:

        I made the big move to Tanzania when I met him, we’re here to stay now. Good luck with everything, it’l all fall into place and you’ll be together again soon enough. One of my friends who I met here is actually Australian and her and her partner (Tanzanian) moved there back last year! Good luck x x x

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  6. Lucy At Home says:

    Just popping back again from #blogcrush. I think it’s really sweet that you and hubby share stuff on your social media – I think it’s a great way to let the other person know that you’re thinking of them, even if you’re not there in person. It also sends the message to everyone else that you’re proud to be a couple and your relationship is strong, despite the distance #blogcrush

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  7. Rhyming with Wine says:

    I definitely agree that the world is a smaller place now thanks to free apps and social media which means you can still be close across the miles. Brilliant tips and I think it’s great that you clearly have a wonderful and committed relationship regardless of the distance. Thank you for sharing with #DreamTeam x

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  8. JakiJellz says:

    Wow, it must be hard at times. I dated someone years ago who went travelling and it was hard but I guess you do adapt after a little while. Hats off to both of you and I hope you are reunited soon. Thanks so much for linking up to #TriumphantTales – hope to see you again on Tuesday!

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  9. chickenruby says:

    i’m currently in the UK my husband in Dubai, we’ve been living abroad now for 7 years and often find ourselves separated for several months at a time due to family problems. I’m currently in the UK after the teen finished boarding school in July and will be here for most of this year while he applies for apprenticeships and settles into a new life, sadly my father died whilst i was here also, so i will probably be here most of next year also. This has happened quite a few times over previous years when we had tenants from hell and i spent 4 months in the UK as it was easy to work with the UK courts from here than in South Africa, when my father was ill previously etc. It usually happens without any forward planning. My husband will have a holiday over here and I will go back for a couple of visits to sort out new rental contracts etc, thankfully the time difference isn’t great, travel costs aren’t too high and now all the kids are adults so I don’t have to worry about him having to manage school runs etc while I’m away. We talk several times daily on the phone and skype and factor the costs in as a necessary expense. #triumphanttales

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    • Mrs Jibril says:

      Thank you for sharing this with me, It’s good to know I’m not a lone. Glad your kids are older now and can manage doing things on their own. I hope you reunite with your husband soon, sometimes for one reason or another we find ourselves not living in the same country with our loved ones but you’re dealing pretty well.
      Thank you for reading my post and sharing you xx

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  10. mummascribbles says:

    It must be so hard when there are children involved but it’s great that you get to speak every day. We are lucky nowadays that we live in a world where communication is at an amazing level. I remember Facetiming Zach when I was in San Francisco for a fortnight working – those snippets were so important to get through it. I hope you get to your husband for real very soon. Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

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  11. Sunita says:

    Wow as we get older managing long distance relationships is just as hard. Juggling the time zones can’t help either. So many partners these days (and parents) work in different countries. Really helpful tips. Thanks so much for linking up to #fortheloveofBLOG this week xx Sunita

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    • Mrs Jibril says:

      It’s difficult but we are trying our very best to cope. Sometimes life can be a little unpredictable because I’m sure not a lot of people predict long distance in their future when they’re getting married. Thank you so much for commenting Sunita xx

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