Long distance is one of the hardest things a relationship/ marriage can go through, as some of you may know that I’m now in Melbourne, Australia while my husband is still in Nairobi, Kenya. It’s been close to 5 months, which I know, might not seem like such a long time but it feels like 50 years if you ask me.
But our relationship is still strong and it’s surviving the test of distance. I know a lot go through something similar so I wanted to share how we are making long distance work in our relationship.
This is a no brainer you must trust each other, I personally never doubted my husband’s faithfulness call me old fashioned. Even when people point out that “all men cheat” I honestly don’t believe it. We have a lot together that we won’t risk our relationship by being unfaithful. If you don’t trust him then marriage might not be the right step for you just yet and long distance is not going to work.
We talk/ video chat daily if we don’t I feel like my day isn’t complete. Baby E also chats with his dad daily because the last thing I want is to mess their strong bond by our move. Now that I’m working full time my husband will call my mom while I’m at work and he would talk to Baby E. it helps that my mum is also on Facebook.
We’re so lucky to have all these little apps in our fingertips to communicate and chat without a large bill. could you imagine long distance relationship back in the 80’s?
Our favourite apps are Skype, Facebook messenger, we also use Whatsapp occasionally all these are free apps. I also tag him in posts and share funny videos he does the same as well.
Even though we live miles apart all our social media accounts make it very clear that we are in a committed relationship from posting photos of each other to our relationship status.
Some people might not feel comfortable posting photos of their partner or family on social media which is understandable but I honestly don’t have a problem with it.
Time difference can be such a huge barrier in a long distance relationship because we’re not only living on different sides of the world but you’re also living in different time zones. My advice is adding your partner’s city on the world clock in your phone so you know the time instead of having to always calculate it in your head. Then be mindful of your other half’s schedule so that you don’t call in inappropriate times or in the middle of the night.
Sometimes it’s not about talking for hours on end but rather having a quick catch up daily when the time is suitable for both of you.
Talk about the future
Having a clear vision about your future together is important, it makes it a bit easier because you make plans about life together once long distance is no longer an issue.
we sometime talk about future holidays we would like to take and how our future will look like 5 or 10 years from now.
Remember it is worth waiting to be reunited with someone you love. Long distance is not a permanent situation.
Have you ever been in a long distance relationship?
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