How to survive a long distance relationship

Long distance is one of the hardest things a relationship/ marriage can go through, as some of you may know that I’m now in Melbourne, Australia while my husband is still in Nairobi, Kenya. It’s been close to 5 months, which I know, might not seem like such a long time but it feels like 50 years if you ask me.
But our relationship is still strong and it’s surviving the test of distance. I know a lot of go through something similar so I wanted to share how we are making long distance work in our relationship.

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Trust
This is a no brainer you must trust each other, I personally never doubted my husband’s faithfulness call me old fashion. Even when people point out that “all men cheat” I honestly don’t believe it. We have a lot together that we won’t risk our relationship by being unfaithful. If you don’t trust him then marriage might not be the right step for you just yet and long distance is not going to work.

Communication
We talk/ video chat daily if we don’t I feel like my day isn’t complete. Baby E also chats with his dad daily because the last thing I want is to mess their strong bond by our move. Now that I’m working full time my husband will call my mom while I’m at work and he would talk to Baby E. it helps that my mum is also on Facebook.

Social Media
We’re so lucky to have all these little apps in our fingertips to communicate and chat without a large bill. could you imagine long distance relationship back in the 80’s?
Our favourite apps are Skype, Facebook messenger, we also use Whatsapp occasionally all these are free apps. I also tag him in posts and share funny videos he does the same as well.
Even though we live miles apart all our social media accounts make it very clear that we are in a committed relationship from posting photos of each other to our relationship status.
Some people might not feel comfortable posting photos of their partner or family on social media which is understandable but I honestly don’t have a problem with it.

Time difference
Time difference can be such a huge barrier in a long distance relationship because we’re not only living on different sides of the world but you’re also living in different time zones. My advice is adding your partner’s city on the world clock in your phone so you know the time instead of having to always calculate it in your head. Then be mindful of your other half’s schedule so that you don’t call in inappropriate times or in the middle of the night.
Sometimes it’s not about talking for hours on end but rather having a quick catch up daily when the time is suitable for both of you.

Talk about the future
Having a clear vision about your future together is important, it makes it a bit easier because you make plans about life together once long distance is no longer an issue.
we sometime talk about future holidays we would like to take and how our future will look like 5 or 10 years from now.

Remember it is worth waiting to be reunited with someone you love. Long distance is not a permanent situation.

Have you ever been in a long distance relationship?

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Exciting News

If you follow me on Instagram or Facebook this wouldn’t be a new announcement to you but I know some of my reader might not be up to date with the recent change.

Big Exciting Announcement

Simplyamama.wordpress.com is now mrsjibril.com

Some of you may remember from My 2017 blogging goals That I wanted to have a domain name/self-host for a while now. I’m currently using a paid plan in WordPress. I’m not tech savvy and I didn’t want to risk loosing my old content.

Rebranding can be tricky and sometimes confusing but I want to assure everyone that the content of my blog will remain the same and Motherhood would be at the centre of it all. You should expect weekly posts as usual and I have a lot in store in these coming months so keep your eyes peeled.

Thank you to every single person who reads, likes and shares my posts. I really appreciate it.

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How To Stay Fit as a Busy Mummy with Aaptiv 📱🏃🏾‍♀️🤸🏾‍♀️

When I was pregnant one thing that I continuously thought about was my snapback body, it is no secret that I gained 25kilos during my pregnancy. I sometimes felt that I need to get back to my pre-baby weight fast seeing all the celebrities and public figures loose their baby weight in a blink of an eye. Almost 2 years later I still haven’t lost all the weight. I started going to the gym last year when I was at my heaviest but I haven’t joined another gym since our big move and now that I started working full time I feel like I don’t have that luxury of spending an hour or two at the gym. I was so excited when I came across a fitness app called Aaptiv.

The main focus of the app is that workouts should be fun and time efficient. What attracted me about this app that they don’t only offer the traditional workouts but it also has special workouts for mummies and mummies to be.

img_4006.jpgThere are a variety of exercises for mummies-to-be through out their pregnancy right from the first trimester. If you are anything like me when I was pregnant with baby E I was worried about working out while pregnant. Aaptiv’s maternity workouts is by Kira Kohrherr who is a pre/postnatal certified personal trainer with over 15 years experience and if this doesn’t put your heart at ease she is also a first time mummy.IMG_4005If you’re a mummy already and your little one still uses a pram there are stroller workout that will help you tone your body.img_4004.jpgAaptiv is user friendly and you have a number of personal trainers to choose from. you can simply click on each trainer to see a little intro about them.aaptiv1You can have the guidance of a personal trainer during your workout in the comfort of your own home. Next time you have a minute to spare download Aaptiv which is available for both iphone and Android.

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How To Get Your Kids To Help You Clean 🗑 👧🏽👦🏾

Hello Lovelies, welcome back to my blog. Today’s post is written by Sophia from SW12 Tidy Tenancy Cleaners

She wanted to share with us ways to get our little ones interested in helping us tidy and clean our homes.

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Are your little babies all grown up already? May be you’re thinking it is time to teach them some important life lessons and skills that will help them? Then it is time to get them involved into the housework and cleaning. Actually, the younger you start them, the better. Not only will you have some help with your cleaning, but also it will allow you to spend time together.

Of course, depending on how old your kids are, there are different cleaning tasks and chores you can get them to do, and different ways to make it fun for them and worth their while.

Younger Kids (4-8 Years Old)

You have to think of games that will keep them entertained just long enough for them to get the job done. You need to remember that you have to give them the tasks one at a time and explain to them exactly what you want done.

You also need to keep in mind that if they are going to use cleaning products, they should not be dangerous to them. I suggest that you make some yourself. All you will need is water, dishwashing soap, baking soda, and vinegar or lemon juice. You can make yourself an all-purpose cleaner that your kids can safely use.

Put their favourite music on full blast and get to work. Sing and dance while you work. Get your little ones to dust the furniture, give them a sock (a clean one of course), soaked with a mixture of warm water and vinegar to go over all the pieces of furniture while dancing and dusting them. You could get them to fold the dried laundry, as good as they can.

Tell them to organize their room and make their beds. If they have a children watering can, get them to water the plants, my niece is two and she loves watering the flowers with her little pink watering can.

A fun way to keep them interested in cleaning and helping you around the house is, if they have kids cleaning toys – broom, dustpan, or something similar. Let them work using their own toys. Give them gloves, hats, aprons and make it a play-pretend. It will help them get into character and will keep them entertained longer.

9- 11 Year Olds

If your kids are older (9-11 years old) it can be even easier, for you and for them. Since they are older you can have them do more important chores. Like wash the dishes, collect the laundry or fold it, collect the dirty laundry and start the laundry machine, go to the store with a list, clean windows, etc. Just treat them like grown ups, ask them which chores they want to do and let them do it. You could have a friendly competition between them, give each child several tasks and let them race and see who will finish them first.

Of course, you need to figure out a reward as well. The winner might get a cake, a trophy, a new toy, choose the movie for the next family movie night, whatever you can think of and know will motivate them.

Or just ask them how to make cleaning more fun; they will surely have unique and imaginative suggestions.

How young were your kids when you started giving them chores and letting them help you around the house?

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