Things I was told about giving Baby E a Pacifier

I was one of those mums who didn’t pack a dummy in my hospital bag as I went to have my baby because I thought I wouldn’t need it. As most first time mums I was wrong. Fast-forward 22 months later and my baby is a total sucker for his dummy and we haven’t weaned him off completely yet. I’m such a dummy for the dummy… Pun intended!

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Some of you may remember that we lived in Kenya and I received criticism from many people because using a pacifier isn’t very common there.

Here are some of the questions and statements I heard while I was there and some I still get today even though we’re in Australia.

Does it really sooth him? Does it work? How does it work?

The main reason any mum would use a pacifier is to sooth their baby when he’s a little cranky or unsettled. Baby E isn’t an exception, I gave him his first dummy to sooth him.

 Doesn’t dummies disturb his sleep?

Small babies go through so many things, witching hours to sleep regression to teething which all interfere with the baby’s sleep. When the baby falls a sleep eventually the dummy falls out and he can’t even sense it if he is in deep sleep.

 Does it make him sleep?

Surprisingly when we give our baby his dummy if he’s tired he would sleep. Trust me if he’s not sleepy no dummy or any trick can make him fall asleep.

 He will never speak! He will end up with speech delay because of the dummy!

This is a very silly assumption and extremely inappropriate, there is no mother that tries to hinder her child’s development deliberately. Some children who never used a pacifier end up with speech delay.

Doesn’t the dummy mess up his teeth? He’ll have crooked teeth

I researched about it and asked various medical professionals; I was assured that dummies don’t ruin the baby’s teeth. This is my first child so I wouldn’t know until he grows up if he will get buck and crooked teeth or not after he looses his cute pearly milky teeth. I have one solution for this problem if it ever happens “braces”.

Whether your child sucks a dummy or their thumb, it eventually doesn’t matter as long as your baby happy and healthy.

We had a goal to ditch the pacifier by baby E’s 1st birthday and we failed miserably. Are we ready to ditch it soon? Maybe..

Our goal is now to get wean him off by his 2nd birthday in 2 months. Wish us luck.

Did you use a pacifier with your little ones?

How did you manage to wean them off?

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2017 Blogging Update

Hello Lovelies,

January this year I posted my 2017 Blogging Goals  and given that we’re in August I wanted to do a little update and see how blogging is going so far.

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My achievement and accomplishment so far:

  • Rebranding: I’m no longer “Simply a Mama” as of July 2017 I rebranded to “Mrs Jibril” this wasn’t on my goals list and so far I like the new name.
  • Working with brands: I didn’t think I was recognised in the blogosphere to have the opportunity to work with brands; especially after my move from Kenya to Australia. I was lucky to have been approached by brands for collaborations. If you are a brand interested in collaborations you can reach me here.
  • Consistency: I always post once a week and if I’m motivate you will be surprised with an extra post. I post every Saturday.
  • Self-Hosting: I’m not tech savvy but I managed to successfully not only rebrand but also change and upgrade my wordpress.
  • Collaborations and Guest Posts: Now I have a tab to show all the posts I featured in.
  • Blog Readers and Followers: This has hugely increased and I definitely feel the love and support in the blogging community. I wish I had the exact figure of my blog followers back in January so I can compare.

The goals I still need to work on and I haven’t achieved yet:

  • Social Media Followers: I wanted to increase my followers in my main social media platforms Instagram, Facebook Page and Twitter. I wanted around 1000-2000. I’m still far from my target but I’m not discouraged because I want genuine followers who enjoy my content.
  • YouTube: I still haven’t started my channel even though I have video ideas. I need to stop procrastinating.
  • Blog Series: I still haven’t figured a unique series idea.

I hope you enjoy reading my posts as much as I enjoy writing them. If it’s your first time visiting my blog please make sure to follow me for weekly posts on all things Motherhood and Family related.

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How to survive a long distance relationship

Long distance is one of the hardest things a relationship/ marriage can go through, as some of you may know that I’m now in Melbourne, Australia while my husband is still in Nairobi, Kenya. It’s been close to 5 months, which I know, might not seem like such a long time but it feels like 50 years if you ask me.
But our relationship is still strong and it’s surviving the test of distance. I know a lot of go through something similar so I wanted to share how we are making long distance work in our relationship.

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Trust
This is a no brainer you must trust each other, I personally never doubted my husband’s faithfulness call me old fashion. Even when people point out that “all men cheat” I honestly don’t believe it. We have a lot together that we won’t risk our relationship by being unfaithful. If you don’t trust him then marriage might not be the right step for you just yet and long distance is not going to work.

Communication
We talk/ video chat daily if we don’t I feel like my day isn’t complete. Baby E also chats with his dad daily because the last thing I want is to mess their strong bond by our move. Now that I’m working full time my husband will call my mom while I’m at work and he would talk to Baby E. it helps that my mum is also on Facebook.

Social Media
We’re so lucky to have all these little apps in our fingertips to communicate and chat without a large bill. could you imagine long distance relationship back in the 80’s?
Our favourite apps are Skype, Facebook messenger, we also use Whatsapp occasionally all these are free apps. I also tag him in posts and share funny videos he does the same as well.
Even though we live miles apart all our social media accounts make it very clear that we are in a committed relationship from posting photos of each other to our relationship status.
Some people might not feel comfortable posting photos of their partner or family on social media which is understandable but I honestly don’t have a problem with it.

Time difference
Time difference can be such a huge barrier in a long distance relationship because we’re not only living on different sides of the world but you’re also living in different time zones. My advice is adding your partner’s city on the world clock in your phone so you know the time instead of having to always calculate it in your head. Then be mindful of your other half’s schedule so that you don’t call in inappropriate times or in the middle of the night.
Sometimes it’s not about talking for hours on end but rather having a quick catch up daily when the time is suitable for both of you.

Talk about the future
Having a clear vision about your future together is important, it makes it a bit easier because you make plans about life together once long distance is no longer an issue.
we sometime talk about future holidays we would like to take and how our future will look like 5 or 10 years from now.

Remember it is worth waiting to be reunited with someone you love. Long distance is not a permanent situation.

Have you ever been in a long distance relationship?

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Exciting News

If you follow me on Instagram or Facebook this wouldn’t be a new announcement to you but I know some of my reader might not be up to date with the recent change.

Big Exciting Announcement

Simplyamama.wordpress.com is now mrsjibril.com

Some of you may remember from My 2017 blogging goals That I wanted to have a domain name/self-host for a while now. I’m currently using a paid plan in WordPress. I’m not tech savvy and I didn’t want to risk loosing my old content.

Rebranding can be tricky and sometimes confusing but I want to assure everyone that the content of my blog will remain the same and Motherhood would be at the centre of it all. You should expect weekly posts as usual and I have a lot in store in these coming months so keep your eyes peeled.

Thank you to every single person who reads, likes and shares my posts. I really appreciate it.

I hope you like the new name? Let me know how you feel about this announcement and the change

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How To Stay Fit as a Busy Mummy with Aaptiv 📱🏃🏾‍♀️🤸🏾‍♀️

When I was pregnant one thing that I continuously thought about was my snapback body, it is no secret that I gained 25kilos during my pregnancy. I sometimes felt that I need to get back to my pre-baby weight fast seeing all the celebrities and public figures loose their baby weight in a blink of an eye. Almost 2 years later I still haven’t lost all the weight. I started going to the gym last year when I was at my heaviest but I haven’t joined another gym since our big move and now that I started working full time I feel like I don’t have that luxury of spending an hour or two at the gym. I was so excited when I came across a fitness app called Aaptiv.

The main focus of the app is that workouts should be fun and time efficient. What attracted me about this app that they don’t only offer the traditional workouts but it also has special workouts for mummies and mummies to be.

img_4006.jpgThere are a variety of exercises for mummies-to-be through out their pregnancy right from the first trimester. If you are anything like me when I was pregnant with baby E I was worried about working out while pregnant. Aaptiv’s maternity workouts is by Kira Kohrherr who is a pre/postnatal certified personal trainer with over 15 years experience and if this doesn’t put your heart at ease she is also a first time mummy.IMG_4005If you’re a mummy already and your little one still uses a pram there are stroller workout that will help you tone your body.img_4004.jpgAaptiv is user friendly and you have a number of personal trainers to choose from. you can simply click on each trainer to see a little intro about them.aaptiv1You can have the guidance of a personal trainer during your workout in the comfort of your own home. Next time you have a minute to spare download Aaptiv which is available for both iphone and Android.

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How To Get Your Kids To Help You Clean 🗑 👧🏽👦🏾

Hello Lovelies, welcome back to my blog. Today’s post is written by Sophia from SW12 Tidy Tenancy Cleaners

She wanted to share with us ways to get our little ones interested in helping us tidy and clean our homes.

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Are your little babies all grown up already? May be you’re thinking it is time to teach them some important life lessons and skills that will help them? Then it is time to get them involved into the housework and cleaning. Actually, the younger you start them, the better. Not only will you have some help with your cleaning, but also it will allow you to spend time together.

Of course, depending on how old your kids are, there are different cleaning tasks and chores you can get them to do, and different ways to make it fun for them and worth their while.

Younger Kids (4-8 Years Old)

You have to think of games that will keep them entertained just long enough for them to get the job done. You need to remember that you have to give them the tasks one at a time and explain to them exactly what you want done.

You also need to keep in mind that if they are going to use cleaning products, they should not be dangerous to them. I suggest that you make some yourself. All you will need is water, dishwashing soap, baking soda, and vinegar or lemon juice. You can make yourself an all-purpose cleaner that your kids can safely use.

Put their favourite music on full blast and get to work. Sing and dance while you work. Get your little ones to dust the furniture, give them a sock (a clean one of course), soaked with a mixture of warm water and vinegar to go over all the pieces of furniture while dancing and dusting them. You could get them to fold the dried laundry, as good as they can.

Tell them to organize their room and make their beds. If they have a children watering can, get them to water the plants, my niece is two and she loves watering the flowers with her little pink watering can.

A fun way to keep them interested in cleaning and helping you around the house is, if they have kids cleaning toys – broom, dustpan, or something similar. Let them work using their own toys. Give them gloves, hats, aprons and make it a play-pretend. It will help them get into character and will keep them entertained longer.

9- 11 Year Olds

If your kids are older (9-11 years old) it can be even easier, for you and for them. Since they are older you can have them do more important chores. Like wash the dishes, collect the laundry or fold it, collect the dirty laundry and start the laundry machine, go to the store with a list, clean windows, etc. Just treat them like grown ups, ask them which chores they want to do and let them do it. You could have a friendly competition between them, give each child several tasks and let them race and see who will finish them first.

Of course, you need to figure out a reward as well. The winner might get a cake, a trophy, a new toy, choose the movie for the next family movie night, whatever you can think of and know will motivate them.

Or just ask them how to make cleaning more fun; they will surely have unique and imaginative suggestions.

How young were your kids when you started giving them chores and letting them help you around the house?

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Gift ideas for the entire family ft. Uncommongoods 🎁🎁🎁

Hello lovelies and welcome back,

As a mother and a wife I often find myself looking for unique gift ideas all of the time for my loved ones because who doesn’t like to stand out by having the most thoughtful gift. I came across a little website called “ uncommongoods” that ticks all the boxes for me

  • Great range of gifts
  • Affordable – There is literally something to fit everyone’s budget
  • Hand made
  • Environmentally friendly and socially responsible company –None of their products contain leather, feather or fur.
  • Giving back- you’re not only buying a unique gift but also $1 donation is given to a non for profit organisation of your choice.

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Even Huffington Post thinks Uncommongoods are amazing. I picked a few of my favourite gifts from their website to share with you.

For Hubby

I know it is always a struggle finding a great gift for your better half; I usually plan a month in advance. I wish I came across this website last December (both hubby’s birthday and our wedding anniversary are in December). I found the perfect gift idea in less than 10minutes and it is extremely affordable.

Some of you may already know my husband wears glasses. The Eye Glasses Holder is such unique gift; I never came across something similar before.

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There are so many gifts to choose from for your partner, dad or even brother. Head over to uncommongoods to see all the different and original gifts for men here

For Baby E

This is by far my favourite section because it has so many little gifts for newborns and babies, makes me almost want to have baby number 2 lol.

I picked out two things because who can decide on only one thing for their baby. My first pick for Baby E is the Mustachifier because I haven’t weaned him off the pacifier yet. I’ve seen photos of babies with it online and they look adorable.

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My second pick is Milton the Mealtime Companion, if you are a mother of a fussy eater you will understand how picky little ones get when trying new foods. I love that this little toy helps babies during meal time but you can even use Milton to teach your babies about brushing their teeth.

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There is a large selection of gifts for babies and newborns that are perfect to give a mummy to be  here

For Us

As new parents you know it is always hard to think of date night ideas, incase you missed it I have a post about  inexpensive date night ideas. The Date Night Bucket List takes away the thinking part of a date night. It is a bucket list with a variety of date night ideas. It’s also extremely affordable. You can check out other great gifts for couples here

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Moving & Starting a New Chapter 💁🏽👝👩🏽‍💻

As you can tell by my pervious post I had a major change in my life recently, moving back to Australia with my son. This is the reason I wasn’t posting on my blog and barely posted on my other social media platforms. Moving can be very overwhelming! Moving houses can be stressful enough let alone moving to a different continent.

I wish I could share the reasons behind our decision to move but I want to keep my blog positive and move forward from whatever led to this. It wasn’t an easy decision because my husband isn’t able to join us straight away.

Luckily it wasn’t a huge change for me moving back, I have my family already here. They are a great support system for me, which I’m forever thankful for.

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If you are moving abroad with a baby here are some things I did. You can have in mind to make settling easier for you and bub.

  • Find the right nappy brand: if your toddler isn’t potty trained like baby E this is so important. Who thought it would be this hard finding the perfect nappy especially to wear overnight. I heard great reviews about Coles Comfy bots but they made changes to it and I was completely disappointed. Now we use Baby Love, which seems to be working for us so far.
  • Buy lots of weather appropriate clothes for baby E because the weather is constantly changing in Melbourne. I need to make sure he’s always nice and warm in the cold and not too hot during the heat. There are plenty of affordable places to buy baby clothes you will be spoilt with options.
  • Medicare: Unfortunately I misplaced our Medicare card (we share the same card) so I needed to get a replacement card; the process was quick and easy. All I had to do is call them and I had a new card within a few weeks.
  • Update Baby E’s immunisation records: my son received both his 6 months and 12 months vaccinations in Kenya. I had it all recorded correctly in his green book*.On his records in Australia it only showed the vaccinations he received when he was here as a newborn. I went to our local city council with his baby book and got his vaccination records updated.* The Green Book (My Health and Development Record) is given to all parents in Victoria after the birth of their baby; it has all the important information and records. This includes MCH nurse visits and vaccinations records.
  • Book an appointment with our local maternal and child health nurse (MCH) and take him for his 18 months check. Our GP doesn’t measure height or weight of the babies so I like taking him to these appointments to see where baby E is on the growth chart.
  • Take Baby E to activities in our local library: this is something I wasn’t able to do in Kenya and it is a great opportunity for him to socialise with kids around his age group. You can find play groups and kids activities near you on your local council’s website.
  • Adulting: I have been job hunting and trying to transition from a stay at home mum to working mum.

Everything seems to be falling into place and we settled well, the only thing missing is my husband who we terribly miss daily.

Have you moved with a baby before? What is your tip to mothers planning to make a big move soon?

You can read about our journey from Kenya to Australia and How I survived travelling with a toddler HERE

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Traveling solo with a toddler 😵🇰🇪✈️🇦🇺

Hey lovelies, look who’s back! As most of you already know by now baby E and I moved back to Australia. I traveled solo with him and the trip was over 20 hours long. I was terrified; we traveled the same distance before but when he was a baby (he wasn’t even crawling back then). This time around he is a toddler running around and wants to be independent, so all you mums understand why I was so terrified about the long journey.

How to survive traveling solo with a toddler

As we settle in our new home I wanted to share my top tips and advice about traveling with a toddler to make it as easy and smooth as possible.

Don’t over pack: I know this is the hardest, I over packed and I wish I didn’t because we didn’t end up using most of the things I carried for him. I packed 3 outfits and we used all 3 by the end of the trip.

 What I packed

  • The essentials- passports, tickets, money, my son’s birth certificate (we don’t share the same family name and I heard that for some reason that can create an issue at airports so I carried it just incase but I wasn’t even questioned about our different surnames once) and all-important documents that I didn’t want to risk putting in the luggage.
  • Yellow fever cards- you will be asked upon arrival at the airport if you are arriving from Africa, my son got his yellow fever shot a month before we travelled if not more and I had mine from a few years back.
  • Nappies
  • Wipes
  • 3 different outfits – onesies and a sweater worked best for us
  • Dummies- we still use pacifiers so I carried more than enough incase he drops them I didn’t want to risk washing them so we ended up using all and losing a few.
  • Warm socks
  • Bibs
  • Empty baby bottles
  • Warm water
  • Toddler formula – Baby E has been drinking fresh milk since he turned one however, a few weeks before our big trip I transitioned him to toddler formula because fresh milk will spoil during the trip if left not refrigerated and we were at the airports for hours. Once we arrived and settled he went back to fresh milk.
  • Snacks – I packed a lot of snacks and he didn’t even eat it.
  • Laptop
  • Camera
  • Moisturizer for both of us
  • Lip balm
  • Toys
  • Phone
  • ipad with lots of cartoons to keep bub entertained.
  • Baby carrier – don’t take your buggy as a carry on luggage because it is usually heavy and being all alone it will be hectic trying to carry the buggy, baby and bag out of the plane because sometimes you will have to use stairs. There are strollers available at Dubai International airport that I used while in transit for a few hours.

Ask for extra blankets for your baby, I used two blankets for Baby E because it gets a little cold on the plane.

If your travelling alone with your baby best of luck, it looks scarier than it really is. Trust me I’m a living proof that a mummy can travel across the world with a toddler alone.

Have you ever traveled alone with you baby/ babies before?

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Family day out – National Museum Of Kenya

Hello lovelies

Baby E and I moved back to Australia last week, we shared the news with family and close friends. Living in Kenya has been unforgettable and magical. I will unquestionably miss it.

A week before we left, my husband and I decided to take our baby to the museum. We had a lovely time as a family and baby E enjoyed himself. I want to document baby E’s first visit to the museum in Nairobi and share it with all of you.

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*We didn’t take baby E’s mountain buggy with us which means a lot of walking for him. He’s becoming so independent now.museum 2

*These are all traditional furniture and homeware.museum 3museum 4

*There is a snake park at the other side of the museum which you pay an extra fee if you want to visit. We obviously wanted to have a look.museum 5

*There is also a little aquarium in the snake park which both me and hubby thought was odd. There wasn’t a huge range of fish in the aquarium and by that point Baby E was exhausted. museum 6

If you are ever in Nairobi and have time to spare I highly recommend visiting the National museum.

Have you been anywhere interesting lately with your family? Let me know in the comments

To my Australian readers “Happy labour day” I hope you’re enjoying the long weekend with your families.

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